In typical fashion, NoCode has the wisdom of Solomon. Earned, no doubt, in the school of hard knocks. Whatever. But his analysis is spot-on. Well put, NC.
The bottom line is that his reaction was driven by his insecurity. He feels (or felt) insecure has a husband, and now he is feeling insecure has a father. "Who is this guy, and what if the girls like him better than me?"
I am wondering how typical this behavior is... How "normal" is it for the WAS to come unglued when the LBS moves on? Hmmm....
Me: 44 WAW: 41 3 kids: 16, 12, 6 Married 18 years
EA/PA: Sept06 - Aug08 (?) New guy (suspected): Jan08 - present