I haven't got much time on the computer for a long response which I feel you all deserve so I'll have to be brief as both W and I agreed to limit our time on the computer.
Arthur, W falling asleep is linked to her medical condition so when she nods off at the end of the day that's it for 8 - 10 hours. A short nap would be no good as I'd never wake her again, although sometimes I do think she could do more to stay awake if she wanted to.
Sandi, I think you are spot on with everything you put in your last post, needles to say your patience level has just about dropped to the same as mine and I think next time I'll be out the door. (ooops I'm already for seeing a next time). But every thing you said struck a cord.
<I am concerned that there will always be another man in the wings.>
<She is telling Lan what she "needs" for him to do for her, but what is she doing for him?>
<She apparently still loves Lan and "wants" him or she would choose to walk away.>
<This falling asleep and and not having sex.........I don't know if that is something she can avoid or if it is games.>
<She wants Lan, but she want the admiration of other men and the "fantasy" with them. >
<I bet if she discovered that he was interested or "looking" at another woman--we would see a complete turn around in this story! If bet she would be as jealous as anyone ever thought about.>
Fb2, I think W could use the professional help however now things have calmed I don't think she's be up for it as much as when I said I'd had enough. W has invited me out for dinner on Sunday ahead of the extended weekend holiday and she's paying. So when we start talking I will raise this subject and see how it goes I've got a few other things on my agenda but I'll try not to overwhelm her.
