The adventure continues--the saga

[Puppy Dog Tails]

SERIOUSLY!?! Your in one of the most beautiful parts of the country and you can't think of anything to do. Maybe NOT having YOUR own LIFE was part of the PROBLEM.

Hey John, obviously PMA hasn't seen today's radar!! "The Sunshine State" -- yeah, right!

[AFWAW]

Yeah, I know there's plenty of stuff to do. I just don't like the fact that I have to do it w/o my D.

We've been switching every other weekend but haven't discussed long weekends/holidays/etc. This is a long weekend for us so I would get her 2 days and the wife would get her 2 days.

I'm not drinking, no worries there.

So far my D has reported all to me. She said there was no evidence of OM at the apartment last time she visited. I already told the W about not including OM in time w/ D. Of course, according to her latest story, there is no OM--it was all made up so I would let her go--whatever--I'm sure it was so I wouldn't turn her in.

[AFWAW]

Yeah, I know, it's supposed to be down to 57 degrees tonight too. Brrrrrrrr.

Oh, my life was my family BTW.

[PMA_Baby!]

Oh, my life was my family BTW.

Admirable, but not always healthy. Can and does lead to resentment. Too much pressure on other spouse to make other HAPPY. Turn to God for that support NOT your partner. Show her that you know how to make YOURSELF HAPPY!!!

[AFWAW]

Thanks but I did other stuff too. I went to school, had work functions, rode my jet ski, swimming, etc. My problem is I didn't give my wife enough attention and affection. WHEN and IF she comes back(which doesn't look promising at this point), I will be sure to rectify that.

[hooper1668]

AFWAW,
First...you have no reason to be embarassed about your life being your family...that is an honorable trait. I know with your job you had many other interests that kept you busy...once again I am going to ask you to explain something...I ask because often what you or your W think is wrong is not wrong...it is only someones perception of the events. And yes, your perception is your reality...but, what do you mean when you say you did not give her enough attention and affection. Might change how you should approach certain attitiudes during this separation...

V/R

[AFWAW]

And yes, your perception is your reality...but, what do you mean when you say you did not give her enough attention and affection. Might change how you should approach certain attitiudes during this separation...

I didn't listen to her when she talked, I interjected too much. She just wanted to talk and I had more important stuff to do that really wasn't that important. I didn't tell her I loved her enough, I didn't hug her or kiss her enough. I didn't buy her flowers just because. I didn't hold her hand or put my arm around her shoulder when we were sitting down somewhere. I could go on and on. I took her for granted a lot. I regret doing all these things so deeply now. Maybe if I had been a more affectionate husband this may not have happened.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

It still doesn't excuse adultery.

[AFWAW]

Just got back from my daughter's spring concert. It was really, really nice. Everyone did a fantastic job. It was almost 2 hours but I didn't even notice the time.

Oh, the wife just called--she apologized for missing the concert and said she felt really bad. Oh well--her loss, that's a memory she won't have. She wanted to talk about her Army Pt test and her day again. She also was upset because my D doesn't want to spend time w/ her this weekend. I asked D about this and her response was: Would you want to spend time with her? Why can't I be as cold as my D? I really wish this year was over already...

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I asked D about this and her response was: Would you want to spend time with her?

I'm sorry, John, that's just plain funny. LOL!!!

Outta the mouths of babes . . .