"To me the convo was more negative from his side than mine. He was pretty clear that he cant deal with me at this point and thinks what he could offer in the future is not what I want. His words not mine."
K, The only way forward is to genuinely accept him "as-is" - with no limited warranty against defects in materials and workmanship.
PS. You are holding out for him to meet some pretty big expectations like passion, alpha-maleness, etc. It seems (at least to my tunnel vision) that he's aware of his "limitations" (realistic) and cannot meet your "demands" (unrealistic). One of you, the one with greater perseverance, the bigger person, has to gain the insight to change the dynamic and break down the barrier. Some important questions asked of you have been swept under the rug - these questions still require a lot of soul searching from you.
