Another newcomer - already finding help

[JKL2009]

I totally get and agree what y'all are saying from a strategic perspective. Tactically, tomorrow we are going to get together and go over some of this stuff. I do not want to be uncooperative, so I will discuss things. I know she is still in that place where she wants to go forward with this.

That being said, maybe starting it off with a little statement ans standing up for myself would be good:

"I don't want to be be difficult but these are big decisions that will affect us and S forever. I want to take our time and make sure we do this the right way."

"I know your feelings on how we got to here, and your rationale for actions you have done in the past weeks. I feel the the easy way out for me, the selfish thing to do here, considering your EA/PA with OM, would be to dump you. This is in fact painful for me to have to work on this, and actually fight for you, in the face of her betrayal, but that in my heart I believe it is THE RIGHT THING TO DO."