I have a bit of advise: Trust God. I remember asking you a while ago if you could ever trust your W again, and you said no. While that is so understandable, you have to at some point begin by trusting that God has your best interests at heart. Put your trust in Him and allow that trust to flow over to your W. We are all imperfect sinners, some commit sins with worse consequences, but we are all equally fallen. My W and I have been back together for 3 months now, and what I've begun to realize is that a marriage can't grow w/out trust. There were a few moments there that I caused her some real hurt because I was back to snooping and mistrusting her, and it turned out I was wrong. Anyhow, I'm sort of ranting here, but the point I'm trying to make is that in order for you all to move past this successfully, you must leave the past behind you!! I can't stress that enough. Let go of all of the hurt. Beg God to help you with this. He forgives and forgets our sins immediately, we must be willing to do the same for our spouses. They will hurt us again, and we will hurt them, but they will also give us love, and we will do the same. Have a covenantal love for your W--this is the kind of love that says I love you because of my covenant with you, not my love for you determines my covenant. Love her as Christ loves you, and see what a change this will make. I really pray that you all will make it through this--it's worth the effort.
