pup,

Thank you for the article. It is EXACTLY what my H was trying to tell me last weekend. To a tee... it was weird reading that and remembering everything he said.

He needs to feel wanted and needs to have my affection whether or not it leads to sex or not.

Men and woman do have such different ideas of what love really is and how they get it. Im learning perhaps the hard way, but at least I have my eyes wide open now and he has been a different person the last week, so I guess im doing something right.

Sex is essential in a marriage, not the most important, but essential. Its true that my moods drive my drive \:\) will work on that one too..


I know how hurt you are, and unless you've been betrayed by your spouse, knowone knows how hard it is to get over and go forward. You feel what you feel and sometimes you can't control that.

me: 37
H: 44
Married for 18 years this june
S7
S3
porn issues, and much more... since 7/06

Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.