I think it's about time you started saying and doing things simply because they are THE RIGHT THING TO DO, and not how your wife is going to respond to them?
Until you can learn to do this, you won't get very far.
Just a thought.
Puppy
I second the motion.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.