Thank you for your imput. It does feel as though I am regaining a degree of control and also my self esteem is lifted as well.
She did re-iterate yesterday about meeting with her L regarding final settlement, and trying to get my share earlier to me. If she was looking for a reaction, she did not get one, I said "yeh fine" and left it at that. It is still full steam ahead for D, but I do slightly feel better, even if it is only temporary.
Puppy,
Thank you also for your response, it is great to have so much support.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years