After writing the title of this thread I wanted to try and explain the meaning.

When they come home again you can't have any expectations.

Absolutely none.

You have to take each day as it comes.

They can not be bombarded with questions and pressure.

No real heavy relationship talks.

They will initiate things when they are ready.

These MLC'ers are carrying around a huge amount of guilt and shame and are not ready to hear how awful your life was when they were away.

They don't want to discuss the OW or how your MIL treated you while they were away.

Don't pressure them to wear their wedding ring again. He will put it on when he is ready.

Piecing is the hardest part of MLC, and this is where the rubber meets the road.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.