Thanks for talking, it really means alot to me. My head just spins 24/7. I want him to be with us and stay but then I know the D-day is coming soon. He small talks with me but nothing great. I remember yesterday he was really down on himself. I just told him that his life is crazy right now and it will get better for him. Argh!! In this crazy situation I'd really like to tell him that he's really screwing up this family. I know I will have to set stricter boundaries but I'm confused. Do you think I should eliminate his putting D-4 to bed & spending time with me? Eliminate it all together or just limited the frequency?
I know he only spends time doing that when he doesn't have plans. It's all about H right now. There is nights when he brings D-4 home at 6pm and he's in a rush to leave. All dressed up and ready to go somewhere ??. D-4 begs him to stay and he'll just say - daddy has to go to work. Then other nights I can't get him to go.
When will this ride be over ?? I really don't think he wants this divorce. If he wanted the divorce then why would he come over to mow grass, cook on grill, fix fences, etc?? When he was living at the house, he used to crab about fixing all the things.
He tells me he just wants to be friends after the D. Oh my, I would just like to punch him in the nose. It's like he has no concept of how this will change everyone's lives.
Maybe I should make a punching bag out of my cows - corn feed bags. Ha !
Me: 46 H: 38 D: 6 M: 8-2-2003 Left Nov. 28, 2008 - He filed for D 2-18-09 1st D-Day was 6/9/09 H missing papers FINAL: 8/1/09 done thru the mail
