Not trying to be a smart a**--just that it might be worth letting go of that "not my fault" thing, 'cuz it won't serve you in the long run. Recognizing it is more than half the battle, tho!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012