Another newcomer - already finding help

[JKL2009]

I really don't know what to do - she wants to do this but I agree with what you are saying. The sooner she is out of the house the more likely she won't see changes.

I think my W feels her living with me is toxic. Let's be clear, I did cause things to get this way. In many ways, I was emotional abusive to her as I was depressed, closed off, selfish, and refused help when she reached out to me. She has not said she just wants to S, she wants a D. Her stopping the LS was at least an action that showed some hope, but she still SAYS she wants the D.

In this case, meeting tomorrow is just talking about stuff. She is not moving out tomorrow. We are not signing an agreement tomorrow. I don't think it hurts to talk, but perhaps I need to slow it down a bit after this talk. Do I go as far as stating I don't want the actual separation to occur so fast as I think she will see change in me? That doesn't sound like the right DB approach. Here we are 6 weeks into this, and I am thinking she is looking at July/August as to moving out/selling house.