my story... finally

[bluerain]

My Hs A died, and he reinitiated contact and got things going again with the OW once. She ended up cheating on him. These things often die ugly ugly deaths when they finally go, Ive heard people describe it as burning hot and fast.

I know exactly how painful this is, after such devastation we tend to pin everything on the small glimmers of light that we force our selves to beleive exist, I dont think that it ever occurs to us that in doing so, we put ourselves in a position to lose everything a second time. I am so sorry, but I promise that it will get easier.

You have got to detach. Dont let her be a cake eater. While this is going on you can DB your butt off, and it wont make a difference. If she is going to be a bad friend, dont be her friend. Keep things business like and cordial and only about the kids and thats it. Remember what worked last time. And focus on the positives, such as the moment the other day, I know it seems like a lifetime ago.