Puppy - you are preaching to the choir. I think we all agree she is failing you, and that she doesn't even know it. She does regard her feelings as more important than yours, that is true. Many women do that because men rarely talk about feelings at all, therefore we conclude that feelings are not really important to THEM or they would be making noises about it. Have you shared the above article with your wife? How about starting there?
And when its all said and done, if you and your W end up D'd, then I'm sure you're going to find one of many thousands of women our age who will give you all the sex you want, even if you didn't do everything just right that day, even if you didn't even initiate, even if you forgot to take out the trash....because women our age are ooozing forth with sexual energy just waiting to be tapped.
Your wife is ooozing it, too...she's just immature and has NO EXPERIENCE (how could she?) with practicing and playing with her sexual nature. But if you won't start being open to the idea that she even feels this way, how can SHE be open to it at all?
Again, have you showed her the article above, and if not, why not? She might just have some epiphany.
