Don't know what to do???

[dday101798]

Hi lost, sorry you are here.

I'm not too overly familiar with how to handle your exact situation with you H's depression, sounds like he needs some recall work done.

But, I can say this about the legalities as I have deal with them.

First off, his parents don't need to be there, YOU CAN and your attorney should have already suggested they be removed from the hearing. The divorce pertains to you the respondent and hime the petitioner, no-one else. My STBX kept showing up with her OM and he kept budding into neogtiation talks to which my attorney threatened to have him ejected from the building indefinately.

Secondly, as I was accused of being suicidal (divorce is a nasty game), that was seen as a mental illness and a possible endangerment to my hcildren and thus for about a month and half, I had no access to my kids what so ever, not even on my oldest's birthday. Perhaps the jargon his attorney is trying to convey is that he acknowledges that you H is not fit for visitation?

Other than that, STOP worrying about him NOW. Worry about you and your kids before you allow his behviour, for what ever reason it may be, consume you. I know it's hard, and as my D is in a final stage, I can tell you now, there will be highs, when you are finally in control of things, but be assured, there will be tons of lows, and some even lower than the lowest you thought you've been thus far.

Ultimately, eliminate the parents from the picture, they don't need to be there and monkey things up.

Good luck!

dday