my story... finally

[antlers]

Man, I am sorry for the big setback. I know you're torn up over it. This is a hard way to live. You love your wife, you love your family, and your marriage vows mean something to you. Some people, probably many people, are able to justify their actions...no matter how wrong they are! That doesn't change the fact that you love your wife and your family. It ain't over till the judge says it's over...and even then, people still get back together. Someone posted here recently that patience is the companion of wisdom! Detatch, as much as you can, like you said you need to do. Another poster wrote recently 'let her go, in your mind and in your soul, let her go. It's a decision. It's convincing yourself that you have no control over anybody other than yourself.' Now I know this is easier said than donew, but many here have done it...so it can be done. You don't have to give up...but, according to these people who have done it...you can let it go completely.