Speaking from experience, As you know H and I are having issues, but one of his biggest problems is my lack of affection and sex. I have mostly been a LD girl, and his is over the top HD. We have never really met on middle ground. This is where the problems arise.
Since our blow up last week, I have made a 360 degree change in the way I deal with him. I touch him unexpectly, hug him and kiss him. In my family we were not a touchy feeling family either, his was. So this all was very difficult for him and I made him feel like he was being rejected, when in fact I still feel the same way about him.
We have been having sex more frequently, and to tell you the god's honest truth, the more you have it the more you want it. I wish I could tell her that. H is feeling more secure with me and that I do care and love him by just remembering to show him more often.
The texting thing we do also, its all in good fun, and doesn't necessarily mean it has to lead to something.
It sounds like your W is a bit insecure with all of these things she's looking up on the net. That is unfortunate and I hope a good therapist can help her.
((((pup)))
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
