JKL, you don't know me very well, but others will tell you that -- if anything -- I'm the resident gloom-and-doomer. But I gotta tell you, reading your lists, I think you have a great deal to be hopeful about!
There is a truism around here of "Believe NONE of what they tell you, and only HALF of what they do." Put another way, you should try to make decisions based upon her ACTIONS, not her WORDS, and I think it's striking that most of the things on the "bad" list are just WORDS -- and totally "SCRIPT" at that!
Her actions tell me that she's still very much open to you. Keep up with your positive changes, stay detached (DON'T try to pursue or go all "needy/grabby"!), and remain patient.
But I gotta tell you, reading your lists, I think you have a great deal to be hopeful about!
