I haven't read Divorce Remedy. MC is something I plan on doing, and I will talk to H about it.
Yesterday when H was over, I played it cool, took him a beer and let him talk first. I didn't try and play the dumb little wife which is what I have done in the past to make him feel more of a man (oh lord, that was hard to type). I got up and left first, didnt't talk about the future, didn't talk about her, didn't question him.
When H went to leave yesterday, he gave me a very long, passionate kiss and asked if he could come over again tomorrow (today). He said it would give us a chance to be alone (our oldest son had also been at our house helping with the gardening).
I am stunned at how hard he is trying. I think he will want to ML this afternoon. It all kind of scares me because a week ago he didn't think he even wanted to give up the "friendship"??!! Now he never wants to see her again.
I do think he was abducted by aliens.
I'm trying to keep a level head and not let my emotions get in the way and just let things happen, but I'm scared. Scared this is all an act on his part just so that the last week (which was horrendous for both of us) can get behind him and life will return to normal. Scared that he will return to her. Scared that I won't keep changing the way I want to change so that I can be a better wife and person too.
I'm reading, reading, reading.
Maggie
Me:47 H:49 3 grown kids Together: 29 years Sep: 5/8/09