I agree with oldtimer. Sorry Puppy...but you are making some incorrect assumptions ...
I think we're BOTH (me, and you/OT) are making assumptions. Who's more likely to be correct, the man who's lived with her for 24 years, or those that only know her by what I write here?
I'm willing to admit that people change as they get older. I just don't think my wife's sexual desire has changed, and least not meaningfully.
I have told her that I am willing to try and continue to change, grow and meet her needs, so long as she's making a reasonable effort to meet mine. It's when she doesn't that I pull away, she knows this, and yet she does it anyway -- EVERY . . . SINGLE . . . TIME.
I told her something this weekend that I have zero doubt is true. SOME man can make her happy, and SOME man can give her what she's looking for. I just think it remains to be seen whether than man can be ME. Sometimes, people are just incompatible, and it doesn't make either one of us a bad person. It just means that in this "It" that we're trying to work thru, that there is a set of needs and expectations that she has, and a set that I have, and we've got a depressingly long track record of proving to each other that we ain't it for the other.
