I agree with oldtimer. Sorry Puppy...but you are making some incorrect assumptions, I'm afraid. You are assuming that your wife has not changed from the person you know. Why not just let go of that idea and TRY to explore what we are saying??
To me, it seems that maybe YOU are the one afraid to grow sexually, and that is why you refuse to accept that there might be some valid things in what OT and I and other women are saying?
Does what we are saying cause you some kind of fear that you will not be able to live up to the role we are suggesting?
Can you at least acknowledge that people DO change as they get older?
Wants to look younger...wants sexy work out clothes....your theory is that she wants to be chased and admired but not caught....my theory is that she wants to be caught, but she's married to you, and she figures you cannot give her the type of "catching" she wants....so she's looking to get caught, just not by you. That's why she wants freedom. However, what I keep saying over and over is that she CAN get the type of catching she wants from you, she just doesn't know it yet. If you could possibly open your mind a bit more to what OT and I are saying, maybe you could learn how to BE the type she wants to get caught by.
Or you could just refuse to change, refuse to accept she has changed, and keep things the way they are now, until you two end up divorced?
