You're right about the pattern, to be honest I never noticed it. I would capitulate during a row because of the children being present and the fact she would just go on and on and on, and this has been the case for a few years..
I do need to be mentally prepared as my mind wanders to where we have reconcilled and this is a very dangerous place for me to be in. This divorce will go ahead, I have no doubts about that at all, it is whether in time we rebuild our relationship over a period of time. She told me this morning she thinks I am doing enough for the children which really hurts, I don't know whether she means it but my children seem very content to be with me. I am anticipating their needs as best I can and they don't say they are missing anything. I took them swimming at the weekend, trampolining, and to the school fair on Sunday. I make meals for them from recipes which I have not done before, I give them a cooked breakfast, treats they want and generally we have a nice time. I even have one of my daughters friends to stay so I am catering for three children. What more can I do to make my children happy?
PM, you are right about her actions as one minute she appears ok and then the next she is angry. I have just realised as I am writing this - The pattern here is when she requires time for herself she will raise the issue when the children are present, which to me is outrageous. She has identified our S7 has become very clingy and will not leave either of us when we leave the room. Why she would continue to try and manipulate me knowing how he is feeling is disgusting, therefore I will 'nip this in the bud' and will only discuss these issues when the children are not present.
Last edited by markhaving probs; 05/18/0901:49 PM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
