A lot is happening just hard to see from your perspective.
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I'm working on me. I've lost 85 pounds, I'm doing better with the kids, I exercise regularly, I'm getting out some, I'm learning, etc..
See a lot is happening and it's being noticed, have some faith in your efforts.
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Why do I remain hopeful and committed?
I'll guess at this: you love your W, you love your family, your vows mean something to you, you "see" your shortcomings in your sitch, you are not a quitter, you believe it can be worked out, and you are smart enough to see thru the problems.
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Then I think maybe that's how she felt before she left the marriage. She tried for years to get me to see things differently and do things differently...and then finally, since I didn't...she concluded that it wasn't worth it anymore and she left and quit the marriage.
This is an awful way to live. The rejection is devestating.
She is rejecting your bad behavior not you as a person. Change the behavior because you see the benefit for yourself. Then it becomes a win-win situation.
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Am I being smart and strong by doing what I'm doing...instead of just quitting? Is it worth the effort?
I still feel like it is. Am I wrong?
You answered your own question.
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I'm lonesome.
That's where the GAL comes in. Stay busy with healthy activities. My dog was a godsend for me. Make a list of what you are grateful for,help someone else out, go to church and get involved, post/vent here, exercise and take care of yourself. You can handle it. Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
