So she likes the chase, she loves the attention. Now you have two keys to your puzzle.
(Third key) So what was different with OM? Was the s*x different with him? Or did she only wanted to be chased by him as well?
Fourth key, what else turns her on? You mentioned the 'Cougar' show. Well, what about it exactly that turns her on? Is it because the women in the show are strong, confident, sexy? Does she want to be like them, to feel like them? If so, how can you act so that she feels strong, confident and sexy? Does she fantasize about being the pursuer?
Until you have a conversation (I mean heart-to-heart) it seems you are just guessing. It's OK but it's taking an awful lot of time. If she doesn't know what turns her on, then it seems you need to explore together. If she does know and trusts you to be kind, not laugh at her suggestions and maybe give it a shot, then you're on your way.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
