Another newcomer - already finding help

[JKL2009]

Good to know Puppy, I think that is essentially how I responded. I may need to be clearer that I will not try anymore if she is fooling around, but in some ways I think that confirms some of the reasons she walked away. It is such a balance, tough to call.

As far as if I am making "her plan" easier, I am not sure. She has been clear that she expected me to "throw her out of the house" when she asked for the separation/divorce. I didn't do that. She still says she is waiting for me to "turn" and be angry, vengeful, etc. I am not doing that. So in a lot of ways, her plan is not going as expected since I am not responding like she predicted.

I have been very clear from when she announced her decision that I preferred that we work to save this, I would be willing to do anything to do so, but if this is what she wants to do I will not "fight" her and drag things on forever. I will do what is best for our S.

On the topic of the EA/PA I have said I will not stand for it to be in my face and I will not enable it financially or otherwise. Not sure what else I can do.

I am putting that entire thing out of my mind. It is out of my control, and something that is an extreme likelihood to only be temporary (even if our marriage does end).

Back to worrying about what I can control and what my goals are!