It is so strange - she said (when I confronted her about the EA/PA and we discussed it) that doing so is pushing her farther away. She filed for legal separation, how can I push her farther away? I just don't get that - she walked away already!
Exactly. A wayward spouse saying that is simply "script" -- it happens in well over 90% of the cases where the cheating spouse is confronted and/or exposed. Affairs are highly addictive, so think of a junkie -- are they going to say "gee, thanks for taking away my stash"???
Nope. Doesn't mean it's still not the right thing to do, tho. Your response needs to be "I'm sorry you feel that way," or "I can understand how you'd feel that way," followed by " . . . but I did it to try and save our marriage."
