All of our and his old friends know. He has since cut himself off from them--or they have chosen not to have anything to do with him. He says he told the chief he was hanging out with on deployment--the one I met via the internet a few years ago. I have not talked to him since before deployment, so I do not know if that is true. I will be honest, I am hesitant to email him and ask.
No, the command does not know. I do struggle with not exposing him. However, since I do not have a job, have four children that I am responsible for, and I know the command will at minimum cut his pay for a period of time and possibly put him on restriction, at maximum bust him in rank and put him out, that would be cutting off my nose to spite my face. I will not go back to work before I finish school AND S3 is at least in kindergarten. That will be another 2 years.
I have considered floating a "what if" scenario past the ombudsman to see what the command would do for sure if he was exposed. DH does know if he files, I will expose him to the command and he and OW will be served at work.
He is opening up more to me--he is not as tense around me, tells me more about what he is doing--re-enrolling in college, work issues--and we can actually have a decent conversation. Yes, of course I want more.
I have to do things the way I feel God is leading me to do it. This is it right now and it is what it is. Some days are really good and some days suck moose snot. But, even the bad days are better when I take it to the Lord and allow Him to be Sovereign. He is God, I am not.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
