Blurain, In answer to your last post; I cant imagine what she must be thinking in general let alone her being stated as the OW in court. I would be more than happy to state her name in the legal arena (she is already on my police report as the person that my husband is now co-habiting with). As a woman I could no more break up a family than fly t the moon, no matter what the man is telling me (my W and I havent had a M for years, she is mentally unhinged and unstable, we have been leading a separated life for years, I am alone and upset, I have been treated like a doormat for 5 years and I am not going to put up with it any longer, I fear for the safety and welfare of my D7 in my W's care etc). I am sure that she thinks that she is doing him a huge favour and that she is saving him from a life worse than death. They cant afford to look squarely at the destruction that they leave behind. If they did they would have to look at themselves. Yes, they would have to be under duress but it would seem that they are intent on making it work. I couldnt be with a man that was going through this; I would be worried about his ability to be present to any form of relationship.
