My only guess is the tears are a bit of guilt on her part. She won't be one to ask to come back, try again, or whatever, but I can tell that ever since she told me she's got a new therapist and she said "I've been working through a lot of things and I'm not angry w/you anymore" it has been pretty clear in her words and actions that she's working on the REAL source of her discontent. These issues have been buried deep inside her for so long that instead of working on them, she turned on me and ended our marriage.
Our converstations have been very good and her tone has been wonderful since that time. We've even settled the pensions and even though I'm not getting too much, she isn't ticked off about it.
She's changed a lot and I'm so glad her therapist is challenging her this time and she's being open to the challenging.
As far as her wanting to come back, it is an impossibility and I'm not wanting that anyway. I'm happy to see our relationship begin to move in its current direction and can only hope that it continues to stay like this.
By the way, I think she's on to "sleep over buddy" #3 as she answered the phone when I called and she told me about D's night and mentioned they stayed up late making jewelry for her, D and man #3.
This is another professor at school who has been interested in her for a while, but she was never attracted to him. However, now that she's alone again, it looks like he may at least get a few swings in the batter's box.
For my XW, I really hope her continued therapy can get her to understand that she can be ok on her own. That would make everything so much better for us all.
