Partner left after 9 yrs - Finished with ow!! wow

[Dawn of Hope]

Ali,
You are getting so much good advice, I don't think I need to add to it, but I'm so pleased you are getting a second chance! I know at the beginning of my sitch I kept thinking that if my H would just wake up and realize how screwed up his thinking had gotten, everything would be fine. But...after all the time I've spent on these boards, and my own experiences over the last couple of years, I think it's more accurate to say that, even with as painful as it is to be separated, piecing is actually the hardest part. I hope I get the chance to find out, as you are now, but being in a R is intrinsically a whole lot more messy than living as a basically single person, because people are complex, and if you're solo then you only have your own complexities to worry about. But...in any R of any kind, whether romantic or not (parents, siblings, coworkers..), even if everyone has the best of intentions, you constantly have another person throwing that spanner into your nice neat plan.

Maybe it's time to go back and reread DR now that you are in piecing? Refresh your memory on some of the finer points? And definitely schedule another session with Jody!

I know you are feeling weird and awkward and uncertain about how all this is going to work, but even so, you have been sounding stronger and more confident lately (and, dare I say it, a little less obsessive!). Remember, REMEMBER those hard lessons you have learned since he left...

I am thinking of you and hoping and praying for all the best for you!

Peace and blessings,
Dawn