Thanks Karen (congrats to you, Karen!) and Tom. My woman friend has done the online dating thing but it was at a time when she was kind of out of her mind so I won't judge her results as typical! My uncle tells me that his sister met her H on Yahoo and they've been married 20 years now. What I've noticed in my year and half of singlehood is that meeting people is really difficult and I'm a guy whose been out there keeping pretty darn active. I just get the feeling women are very cautious, and in fact, overly so. This may be because they don't want to mess up whatever activity they are involved in by being open to a R. For example, if you attend the same church any involvement could turn out badly and one of you or both of you may be uncomfortable returning to that environment, so better not to. It's the same thing in a work environment or any other activity. I guess the nice thing about online dating is that all parties are there saying "I want to find somebody" for whatever. It's likeminded people, with no mutual ties that can be endangered and that lets people be open. Well, just thinking out loud. Before I step into that kind of world though, I really want to feel confident in myself. I want to know that I will have boundaries and be comfortable with letting something go if it isn't what I want. It's hard to know when that is without actually doing it but those are my thoughts for now. AT, I don't travel that Queen's Highway so I really couldn't answer about the radar. I was out of town this morning, driving an hour and a half to a small town for a gymnastics meet and traffic was unbelievably great for a long weekend. Btw, D12 put in a kick ass performance, best of the season so far. Lots of gold medals today. One more meet next weekend...and yes, I did go with STBX.
OK, just to be fair to the ladies I did a little Yahoo research on the guys! Ladies, you have been outdone! Here's what I came up with:
"I could sit by a roaring fire with a drink every night" (but who will go to the beer store?)
"I work like a dog" (need a pet?)
"I have lived most of my life in lonliness" (snap him up NOW, ladies!)
"I drive fast" (in the front or back seat?)
The thing I usually do on weekends is work" (maybe you can pack him a lunch)
"I love to laugh at stupid people" (Me too!)
"I have lived through three or four serious R's" (he can't even remember how many!)
"I'm a bit about myself" (sounds like a catch to me!)
"I'm pretty silly most of the time" (Hey, get off my turf, pal!)
"object in this picture is not as dorky as it might appear" (I swear, I'm not making this stuff up!)
I do not like this about myself but I am a loving, caring person" (OMG, how does he ever face the other guys!)
"Let's go Leafs" (I'm speechless!)
"I'm ready to pay the way" (who needs personality!)
"I have a big house" (Wow, the Mrs. left you with the house, get this guy!)
So, I'm gonna have to go and lie down now. I got this from about five minutes of browsing...I'm starting to feel better about dating when I size up the competition! Wow, it was like viewing one train wreck after another after another! Where would one begin the cleanup?
Hi Whatisis, we must share the same SOH, I loved these. I do a similar thing reading my local paper ads and not just the lonely hearts col. I am often tempted to apply for a job proof reading but I would probably be doubled over from so many guffaws!
Maybe small things amuse small minds? Anyway do post any developments in your search, I don't get out much. I have often wondered what to write myself maybe "could you be the fruit in my fruit and nut bar" Good luck and thanks for the laughs.
naej, have you noticed how many guys start their Yahoo posting with how much they don't want to be on the site and don't know what to say!
Here's the beginning of my ad:
Hey ladies, I'm just a guy looking to fill an empty armchair in my living room. Channel surfing is always better done with that special someone. I'm also a fitness junkie and every evening I make a point of opening and closing the fridge door numerous times, I like to alternate arms. To add a little cardio to my work out I put down my remote and walk over to the TV to change the channels manually. I'm not all about my body though! I love those quiet walks to the garbage shute and making things happen in the recycle bins. I'm a committed nature lover, I could lie in bed all day listening to the birds chirp outside my window. I've always had a soft spot for animals, they're delicious. I'm also a pretty spiritual person and sometimes like to just sit in my car and meditate listening to Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds. The apartment underground is a great place to get away from it all. So, if you'd like to share this adventure you know what to do...because I obviously don't! hey, and don't forget to bring the beer. Btw, I hate to be here and don't know what to write. Go Leafs Go!
What a great ad. I am sure it will bring a your perfect soul mate.
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My uncle tells me that his sister met her H on Yahoo and they've been married 20 years now.
Yahoo was created in 1994-95, not real sure what 'online' dating there was in 1989. But it makes no difference, many friends have had success on all the big services. And when you're really ready, you will too.
I've been doing some thinking about the things I was reading on Yahoo (OK, I'm in the helping profession so this kind of stuff fascinates me!). In my posts here I've been poking fun at some of the postings people do but, in all honesty, I really do admire people who are feeling lonely and are willing to do something about it. That is courageous to put yourself out there like that. It just kind of saddens me that I read so many things that will work against the poster in their search. The guys are especially sad, they seem to have absolutely no idea how to present themselves to women. I know we men like to know what needs to be done and then we'll do it but when we don't know the rules we whine like little school boys about how we don't wanna be here and don't know what to do. I can't believe that is in any way attractive to women out there reading these posts. I know in my only real woman "adventure" LOL Coffee Buddy wasn't hanging out with me and empathizing with me because I was whining and crying about my sitch, she was there because despite my sitch I was doing what was right, taking care of business and staying strong. She was attracted to the way I was handling a sitch that she felt was incredibly difficult. Guys also don't seem to know how to hook a woman in their postings. Most guys write like they're posting to other guys. "I like to stay home on weekends" really doesn't strike me as woman friendly. Many of the female ads like to talk about how active they are, not how they like to sit on their duffs all weekend. I noticed to that many women liked to write that they are "simple", especially Asian women. Is that because they know we aren't good at complicated. It appeals to the "Don't expect me to know what you want unless you tell me" aspect of men, I guess. And when women write "no head games" or "no game players" that's a real turn off! It says "I'm one wounded bitch and you're gonna pay big time if I think you're messing with me!" I'll pass. I've also noticed that women are much more wordy and romantic in their postings whereas the men are very concrete and thus rather boring! Hmm, it's all pretty fascinating to me. Anyway, I'm just sharing my impressions, take 'em or leave 'em
Hey, it has just occurred to me why the women seem to be so much more able to talk about who they are and what they want etc. It's because they actually spend time thinking and talking about these things with their girlfriends. Guys talk about sports, cars, work and how we can't figure out what women want! We never sit around trying to figure ourselves out, so when it comes to Yahoo Personals, for example, guys are totally clueless. They're playing a game they've never played and can't find the friggin' rule book! OK, that's it for tonight.
