Learning to Detach

[kjensen]

Snodderly,
Thank you for yor thoughts/advice. I've always found your insight on people's threads so helpful! I definitely can see H's behavior for what it is-reliving something n is adolexcence that needs to be dealt with..it is hard for me to separate his behavior from who he is I think because some of he time he still acts normal, is going to a class with me..not recklessly spending money like some MLCers..

But when he isn't himself-I can see it and get it, but the mental insight rearding the change is delayed for me-like I get swept into a lull of normality..and yes expect more normality when I should expect nothing and look for the next turn on the rollercoaster ride...

I am focusing on me and the girls, but I do get angry and resentful, especially on the weekends when he could be spending time with his daughters and is silent to us all.

I am struggling with how to keep my mind in the right place and how to deal and overcome my anger without sharing with H.

I appreciate the reminder about withdrawal...
When things seem 'normal' I do tend to forget I'm dealing with some real stages that H has to process through before things really become more reality-based...

Snodderly and Peace & IL- thanks for posting I've kind of felt alone here the last few days...