I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow...!

[1853dave]

OK, so I had a great weekend with in D4...and when everyone returned home, it was a pleasant reunion. In short, nothing bad happened.

Sandi, you may be right about the conversation...but at least so far there has been no fallout from it.

How much stronger can I be to her? Geez, I just do the kid thing, I have been GAL, staying busy with stuff, not pursuing, certainly not pleading... Do you think I am enabling her behavior? I think I have been, but I was trying to give things time to see how they go...with the thought that I can ramp it up as time goes on. I wasn't going to clear out the condo on Day #1! It had been suggested to me that I take small steps, and evaluate the results, and so on.

OK, so the tough love road - Sorry, I'll need some specific advice. We all know what NOT to do, but now it is time to hear what TO do. What is your advice? Also, how do you "appear more attractive" when you are exercising the "tough love?"

We're on good speaking terms now - friendly and pleasant. I'd like to maintain that if possible. How does one fit it all in? How do you make this work?