Well, here is my latest thread which also has a link to my original thread. I'm afraid when you read some of my drivel, you'll feel like the blind being led by the blind. But, as is the case for most of us, I'm way better at giving advice than taking it.
I think the kids are the hardest part. I think of them and I want to wake him up to the unfixable damage he is doing. I try to remember though that they have their own paths and this is part of their stories. Hard stuff.