Do NOT call H back until tomorrow. That's an order. First because you need to act "as if" you are busy and don't have the time to call. (The goal is to really be that busy in the future.) Second because he only called you because you called him first. We won't go into that again, but honestly, do you want him to do anything just because he feels guilty? Third because you need to do something different. Sounds like you've been taking care of him during your R. It's time to let him take care of himself.
I totally understand about not wanting another R after all this. I declared that I was done with love and would not put myself in a position to be hurt like this again (but that doesn't mean no men ) I still don't think that's the message of Yes Man. Just to try new things, really experience life and see what happens. It wasn't all about the new girl, he learned new skills, met new friends, excelled in his career - all because he said 'yes' to life.
And I haven't mentioned before but I am 150% in support of doing things to make yourself look good! Being the best Orchid you can be definitely includes looks. I went down two sizes due to crisis weight loss. With all the physical activity I'm doing now I'm determined to stay there. I got a new hair style and a whole new wardrobe. I don't recommend going overboard like this for everyone since I have WAY overspent lately, but it has been great for my self esteem. I look hot and people have commented that they think so too. That helped me to realize that I am still a great catch even if BF didn't think so. There are plenty of other men out there who want me so I would not lack for male companionship at whatever level I chose. Not that that's the focus of my life, but it made me more confident that I would be fine on my own.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
) I still don't think that's the message of Yes Man. Just to try new things, really experience life and see what happens. It wasn't all about the new girl, he learned new skills, met new friends, excelled in his career - all because he said 'yes' to life.
I went down two sizes due to crisis weight loss. With all the physical activity I'm doing now I'm determined to stay there. I got a new hair style and a whole new wardrobe. I don't recommend going overboard like this for everyone since I have WAY overspent lately, but it has been great for my self esteem. I look hot and people have commented that they think so too. That helped me to realize that I am still a great catch even if BF didn't think so. There are plenty of other men out there who want me so I would not lack for male companionship at whatever level I chose. Not that that's the focus of my life, but it made me more confident that I would be fine on my own.
