You have put him in a bad predicament, and in doing so, only your children are suffering.
How many hoops do you want the Man to jump through to see his children?
Holy cr*p. Do you see this? How did she "put him in a bad predicament"???? When do the spouses have any culpability for what they have put their families through? aaargh.
And, I am not saying that one should take such a hardline but, to propose that he is the victim...too much.