Hi PearlHarbr,

Are you kidding me?!!!! No formalities at all. My feelings will not be hurt. You have been nothing but completely helpful. I feel like you know me and we have not even met! Believe it or Not, normally, I am pretty tough, its going to take me a bit to get back to that though.

But, I totally needed exactly what you said. You totally got me out of the house! YEAH!!! I loved that. I didn't do anything great, but I got myself out of the house and I wore some heels and my red fall Banana Republic jacket! It felt great! I drove around for a bit, returned my videos, did some grocery shopping, and went into barnes & noble. I bought "men are from mars women are from venus" and flipped thru some of the first chapters!

Some of it really helped. Thanks - mnt_dreams and pearlharbr for the suggestion!!

Pearlharbr, I think I did not really get into the end of Yes Man, bc right now, I am thinking why would I ever want to do this again....the M or even a R? If someone who is intelligent and loves me as much as he did, is willing to file for D without talking it over with me first or trying to come up with a solution.......what are the chances that this would not happen with another person? What is the point of being the only one in a R who is willing to try before giving up? H has not tried anything. I don't even know what this is really about! I am not saying that no one can have a R or a M after a D....I just think I would not want to again. I feel like its false security. I can see with time having a R, maybe, but definately no M. No Way. For me. To each their own, right?

One of my friends just called and she just had a blow out with her H and he won't talk to her! Is this happening in every household? I listened and told her to give him some space and to GAL and lay low for a couple of days. SO easy to tell someone else.......I am barely get thru 4 hours!

Anyways, then I was doing my belly dancing video and H called. You said not to pick up, so I didn't.

H Left a message.....He was just calling to check how I was doing. He will be working tonight and tomorrow will be moving again to a different work site. He just wanted to let me know.

He sounded terrible! Should I call back? What should I say? He sounded so exhausted.... Unfortunately, I still don't know what to say to him. In a way you are right, Pearlharbr, he has created this situation....I should not worry, but.....well...I am not doing a good job of that these last few days. Couldn't I just ask that he call me once every 10 days or something?

Its 7pm. I am going to read my suspence for the next couple of hours and then will blog again.

Sorry everyone...........my posts are so long all the time....I try to shorten them, but, well...it never works! ;\)


Me: 35 , H - 38
M: 3.5 yrs
R: 8 yrs
Separated: 4/28/09
Divorced: 9/11/09