Orchid, I hope by the time you read this you've had a happier day.
Again, sorry if I come across as harsh. I really want to help you through it and you sound sooo much like me. I know that I need someone to push me before I do anything so I'm trying to pass that on to you.
As I say to the others, I hit with 2x4s because I care!
Honestly, I wouldn't keep up with you if I didn't think you are a good, strong person who can get through this and not just survive but thrive.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g