For instance, rather than go in for the soft-caress-see-if-she-flinches approach that just keeps flopping, I could try something new. I could instead open the bathroom door when W steps out of the shower, tell her that she will step over to the bed, bend over and put her right cheek and palms flat on the mattress, and then I will enjoy myself, telling her exactly what to do.
Problem #2: That's not me. I'm willing to move outside of my comfort zone, but I still need to be authentic. That isn't authentically me, so even it worked (and I personally think my wife would run out of the room, horrified), it would only have been some role-playing game that I couldn't authentically repeat with any consistency.
