I think my friends mean well, but they're only concerned with me being happy in the short term.
Maybe I'm trying to understand something for which there isn't an answer, or at least an answer I'm going to be happy with. In my head, it makes no sense to leave and disrupt both of our lives on such a monumental level if she isn't serious about filing for divorce. Maybe I just don't understand the half-way thing. For me, I'm either all-in or all-out. That makes this detaching thing much more difficult.
What is frustrating me most about this no contact thing is the silence. We got along great when we had contact before. We joke around. We laugh. I just got tired of being the one to always initiate things, so I stopped. I think I'm just second guessing my plan here.
They are concerned about you; they want you to stop hurting!
Maybe she doesn't know what she's gonna do...maybe he only thing she does know is that she needs to be out of it right now. Either way, if they want to leave, you have to let them...you can't stop them. There's a lot of it that we don't understand...it doesn't change the fact that it is what it is. I know it's hard! Not everyone is 'all-in or all-out'. We have to choke it down and deal with it the best we can.
Yeah...I know how hard it is. But you have to do it. That's what they want and need. Love her enough and care about her enough to give it to her. Don't second guess it anymore.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
