Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

Sandi,

Ok, I lied. ONE MORE THING (promise last one). Since you were on the other side of having an EA, I'd like to get your take on something. Friday H told me he holds a lot of resentment toward me for "alienating" him from OW. Post-bomb and pre-DB I had asked him not to have any contact with her. Now, as of a week ago I know they were still talking/texting/meeting for lunch, so I'm thinking something happened this week. At any rate, I've read that if spouse has to give up OP they go through withdrawal, etc. But how do I handle H having resentment toward me for wanting him to cease contact with OW? At the time, I did question how I've alientated him since he has had contact with her since (didn't disclose that I know how much how recently), but I did not defend my position. I see this as just another sign of how uncommitted he is to me and working on our R. I've never known H to forgive anyone when he feels they've broken his trust or wronged him. It's sad b/c when you can't forgive it just festers inside you and I think that's part of what's led him to MLC. Now he feels I've done both. Anyway, did you ever got through resenting your H for discovering your EA? Is there anything I should do or just listen if/when he brings it up again?