Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing 3

[Thinker]

Then detatch anyway, and leave the transparency thing the way it is!

My issue is not the transparency, it's that I think it is currently artificially mandated by me, and detested and resented by my W as snooping and control. Her mistaken belief right now is that I am constantly watching her and reading all of her mail. There is no way that I can prove that I am not, and in fact it IS hard not to. That pressure is driving her away and preventing her from relaxing.

So it's really a question of which does more damage to the R - secrecy and lack of transparency, or resentment over feeling controlled and having ones privacy violated.