So was I right to not join him in town? Should I have offered to go over to his tonight, or for him to come here and cook him dinner? I didnt, because then he would be forced to turn me down. He is clearly not decided and certainly not committed yet. He would rather tidy the house than see me.
First question. Yes right not to go Second/ Third Question No and NO
Turning down the offer of joining him town is good but don't feel you then have to compensate by meeting him on the same day-he isn't going anywhere overnight is he.
Ali I know how hard or nigh on impossible for a girl like you to do but others who have been "here" will tell you the same No pursuing, detach and no expectations, let him make the moves. Especially when he hasn't even mentioned it is over with Helen, and seems like he is not intending to by what Cher said. Talk about trying to bury an elephant.
When you said Cher offered for "us" I take it that meant you and x,so has he told them you are now back together or did they just assume after you spending the night?
I would and this is jmo, try to not let friends organise you into being together. I know they are friends of both of you but it seems like pressure and expectations that he will feel he has to meet. You don't want this to be a fly by, wham, bam, thank you Mam, set up do you.
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he seemed like he wanted to see me but wouldnt say
Well then don't put words in his mouth, let him tell you what he wants. If this new rel gets off the ground you want it to be honest and open don't you,if it's to have any chance of growing into a lifelong commitment and not a walking on eggshells type. It is going to take T I M E now do I have to tatoo that on your head along with the P word.
YOU are so so lucky to be where you are now, so make the most of it,in the great scheme of things a few weeks, whatever is nothing.
