If I don't initiate contact, WAW and I have no reason to communicate. She's on her own, doing her own thing. Whatever changes I'm making she doesn't see. It's like she just absolutely vanished from my life. Because I genuinely care about her, I'm usually the one to call just to say "Hi." My friends keep telling me that when a woman is done, she's done and there is nothing you can do about it. She's already made up her mind and nothing do is going to affect that. I don't understand, if we have almost no interaction, why she doesn't pull the trigger already? What does she possibly gain by staying married?