Poet thanks for your reply-I dont check in every day as I used to-(a good sign I think) so only read it today. Truly, it is very hard to begin a new single life at nearly 60- I honestly thought we would grow old and care for each other together. So sorry to read that you havent had the support which I have had from this site- especially snodderly whom you mentioned -always grounded-never over emotional but calm ,practical and wise.Its been 2 years next week for me. Why do they not ask for a divorce? Ive decided in my case 3 reasons- 1- To keep all options open-he has been ambivalent from the start 2- Financial reasons (though he vehemently denies this) 3- He wants me to be the one who ends our 30 year marriage,it absolves him and diffuses some of the responsibility. Do you think any of these reasons apply to your situation too? How much communication do you have with him? Did he say what the reasons are that he never reaches out to you? Poet, it really sounds as if your H, like mine, is totally confused, unhappy, scared and resentful all at the same time. Ive been amazed, reading other posts. , how they all say similar things.I hope you are bearing up- its awful being in a kind of limbo- and if youre being lied to, even worse. Im thinking of you anyway.Love and Peace Caroline x
