Haven't posted to you either, but this hit home for me:
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He still blames me for his infidelity, cheating, lying! I am very sad. I see now that he has not changed his POV, will not want to change it and will NEVER come home. He can't see his contribution.
This is my life. Now, you can't say 'never' about him coming home, but the rest is what I deal with as well. If I hadn't been such a 'bad' wife, he wouldn't have cheated. Also, I have heard "If I come home (before our divorce), this is what you would have to change (insert everything about me). I will not have to change at all".
Don't let him change your opinion of yourself. And do not let him take you off the high road. Ever. I am glad you stood up for yourself, and I think you did it well. High road high road high road.......its harder, but it feels better.
One thing I say to people when asked what happened with our marriage is "xH wanted a single life, he wanted out, so I let him go". Easy to say, and most people know what it means.
Also, I tell xH when I hear about how this is all my fault "I will take the blame for my part in the distance that happened between us, but any action during or after your affair is on you".