Just read through the last three of your posts. You`re in the middle of the crazy dance right now.I`m not in a great position to advice you as I`m just one step away from that crazy dance myself!
But I wouldn`t jump into D mode just yet. Not when all that emotional stuff in flying about.
Yes, I was there. And yes, things got worse. I got to the point of utter despair with my H-losing weight, insomnia, suicidal. I got to a better place when I started to switch from watching his crazy steps into minding me.
That`s all you have to focus on right now-minding you and minding the kids. Stop watching your spouse.
You`ve gotta watched that kid of yours who`s acting up in achool-don`t wait for the school or your wife to do it. Love that you`re there for them with homework/bike rides etc. Go for more and that and more fun together. Your wife may be suffering from depression/severe confusion whatever. You`ve got to be the rock for your kids.
I went to a lawyer too re separation. And just came away with an overwhelming impression of D suiting the legal world. Times are tough for them too and if they can get a quick buck even quicker(ie you file before she does) so much the better. It`s a frying pan/fire job IYKWIM.
I promise when you really start loving you you`ll start to feel better. At the very least you`ll be in a better place to hack out an amicable separation and you`ll also be giving the M a better chance to work.So go through the list of what works(. At the very least have an adventure for yourself every day-do something different,change your routine,change your toothpast whatever.
And,btw, I don`t blame your wife for not responding to your hug in front of MIL and kids-that`d be a kind of blackmail in my book given your current situation.
Oh, and I get about you being worried about the kids looking at your relationship together etc but they also need to learn that life isnt rosey in the garden all the time/adults go through difficult phases too. And it could well be that they don`t their Mom in quite the same negative light that you do.
