What happened, did he come over? I found all of that pretty confusing.. he wants you still and wants you all to go on holiday in the summer (and THEN you will see how you feel about one another, is that what he meant?) but also...he says he may not be able to give you what you want?
I also think the job thing is interesting.. remember I said, something might change, one of your biggest problems is his two jobs and I didnt believe he would do that forever (and would get burnt out anyway).. so perhaps you should wait and see how things are between you and what efforts he makes once he has left the night job??
I hope your talk is going ok, if you are talking with him now... xxx
Why? I blame Saturn! Planet of commitment. As its been in Virgo, your opposite sign, meaning your signinficant other, you have been condemned to wait and hang around, strangely committed to him, all of last year and since Christmas, its been going backwards so putting things 'on hold'. Saturn is also the planet of loss, lack, limitations, patience and frustration (sound familiar!?). But today, its going forwards again and starting its home stretch out of Virgo. As Yasmin Boland says...
Sunday May 17 - Moon in Aquarius. Moon Meditation: "The words 'chickens' and 'roosting' come to mind..."
Saturn turns on his heels today and ends his last retrograde in the sign of Virgo, starting the final leg of his journey in this sign. Wherever you have Virgo in your chart is where you're about to reap the harvest of your labours. Our chickens are going to come home to roost, so to speak. We have been tested and retested and someone somewhere is about to eat our puddings and get the proof, if that's not too weird an analogy!
So H came over. No talks whatsoever. He is thinking of how to make that work change. He told me he asked 2 professionals-friends what should be his priority (their oppinion), get his personal life straight first or work. He got different answers, the one that said private life should be a priority is happily married, the other one saying work has to come first is newly divorced (hint hint)... I didnt comment.
We slept together with our D in bewteen (he promised to her she could), went to the wedding -wonderful wedding, my cousin looked amazing, at a liitle church by the sea- went for lunch with my family (parents, brother's family) and came back and he left to go to work.
There was no connection moments. We were both doing our own thing, he was mostly dedicated to the kids. Yesterday I asked him to come with me to the super market cause I cant lift groceries with my back issues. He did and was stunned I was checking prices, he kep saying "why do you do that?". I think I sensed a pure quilt feeling of "if it's true you need to check on prices then I have really f@cked up". All the years we were together we were not big spenders but we wouldnt ever check prices on food and stuff.. As you can all understand, I have to -the last year- be careful. He insisted on paying the bill. He also said he will buy the wii for the kids when the kids asked me if we have saved enough to buy it.
Ian, I read all 62 of them and still cant find the answer. I think he has turned a point accepted he cant feel loving towards me but he is willing to settle for a family IF we have no tension between us.
Today I looked "stunning". I wore a silk floral dress, (Hale Bob for those who know the brand) and I got many comments (one guest wished me to get married also and was amazed I have 2 kids already). H never said anything to me. For those who will ask "what did you do?", I commented how good his pants looked on him.
He left with no kiss, nothing. We had a comfrotable weekend between 2... friends (if that). The way I see it, I either wait till he is work issue is resolved being relaxed, happy and calm and living my OWN life independent of him, end it now because I see no future or "consider us together" and get upset and mad all the time. I will go for the first option... K
Ian, I read all 62 of them and still cant find the answer. I think he has turned a point accepted he cant feel loving towards me but he is willing to settle for a family IF we have no tension between us.
Maybe your looking to hard.......
You know what his offer is right now, accept everything and no rehashing. Allow him to come home with no remorse. Let go of the past and act as if everything is hunky dorey......
So knowing this, what now??????
I guess what I am wondering is if we will be having this same exact conversation when #100 rolls around? For me, I don't particularly want to see you still in this place when that time comes.
Hey K.. well, the way you posted it, it sounded like a nice weekend at least.. if there was no connection between you.. did you try? Did you kiss him? Even if he doesnt make moves toward you?
I am taking the option like Ian says, to NOT rehash the past, to just go forward, let him have whatever he offers, to let go of the past and hurt and resentments and just be happy and grateful. Anything else would be, IMHO and in my sitch, 'cutting my nose off to spite my face'. But then I love him, so its a no brainer. Whenever yuo describe H, you make a point to note that you are like friends, or coparents, or brother and sister even. So I dont know what you can do to rekindle the spark, as WELL as being independent and waiting for the work stuff to resolve itself.
I like that option by the way.. I think it is worth waiting, because he is incredibly slow, we know, but at least he has got to the point of verbalising it now to you AND friends and garnering opinions, so action cannot be far off (a matter of MONTHS?? hahhaa). Ok, not funny. xxx
