Another newcomer - already finding help

[JKL2009]

I wanted to add some more info on my sitch but don't seem to be able to find how to edit the first post. At any rate, here is some more detail.

Since my W told me she wanted to separate and divorce, we have been starting to put her wishes in motion. We are working on a separation agreement, we are getting out house ready to sell. We are discussing plan on her finding an apartment. I know that any of my DB work is not going to stop these things - these are going to happen within the next few months, too soon for me to expect the stopping of these actions to be a realistic goal.

We are not far from each other in terms of what we want in the agreement. We will have joint legal custody of our S with primary physical custody with her. She says I can be with him as much as I want. We will split assets equally. So there isn't much to debate or argue. I know I just need to go forward with this, make sure it is something I can live with in the future, and hope down the road that we reconcile.

It is tough to start splitting things up so fast, to sell our home of 5 years, etc. I just don't know of anyway to stop that at this point. I do not want to fight her on anything; she will just dig in and be "proved right" that she is doing the best thing. She still says she thinks I will turn on her and fight, but I know in my heart that is not going to happen.